Today I was coaching my girls Jv volleyball team for our first Jv tournament. If we had won today we would have played tomorrow, unfortunately we lost but the thing that made the loss so painful 
for my girls was the fact that during each of there serves a man in the stands would scream " Serve it into the net!!". It was a really close match we were winning by five in the last game when he started to scream. We ended up losing by two points in the third game. After the high fives my girls told me what he had said, the first thought in my mind was how dare he do something so inappropriate and unacceptable. I wanted to slap him but instead it told my girls I would handle it. I first waited for him to come down stairs and I called him aside calmly and and told him that it was completely inappropriate and reminded him that these were 6th and 7th grade girls and that his team has around 21 girls where as my team has only 6 girls. While I was talking to him he said " I have not idea what your talking about" and I was ready to explode but instead I told him that he was out of line for screaming "Serve it into the net!" as soon as I said those words his face went blank and he said he was sorry. But the way he said it gave the impression on I don't give a shit what you think so I went over to the person who was running the tournament and let him handle the man just so no other girls have to go through what my girls went through.
for my girls was the fact that during each of there serves a man in the stands would scream " Serve it into the net!!". It was a really close match we were winning by five in the last game when he started to scream. We ended up losing by two points in the third game. After the high fives my girls told me what he had said, the first thought in my mind was how dare he do something so inappropriate and unacceptable. I wanted to slap him but instead it told my girls I would handle it. I first waited for him to come down stairs and I called him aside calmly and and told him that it was completely inappropriate and reminded him that these were 6th and 7th grade girls and that his team has around 21 girls where as my team has only 6 girls. While I was talking to him he said " I have not idea what your talking about" and I was ready to explode but instead I told him that he was out of line for screaming "Serve it into the net!" as soon as I said those words his face went blank and he said he was sorry. But the way he said it gave the impression on I don't give a shit what you think so I went over to the person who was running the tournament and let him handle the man just so no other girls have to go through what my girls went through.
3 comments:
I totally think that you did the right thing!! This person was way out of line and he should have realized that!! If these girls are so young it is hurtful for them and for you! I dislike it greatly when fans and parents get really intense with it and what not! More than the players themselves! You did the right thing!
It’s one thing to have fans yell in support of their team, but bashing on the other team in inconsiderate and out of hand. My brother used to play New Trier hockey, and the Metro North League developed a sportsmanship program. This program arose due to inappropriate comments from parents and fans. The team with the best sportsmanship which included their fans was recognized at the end of their season. I think that the fans should be treated as part of the team, and if they are not able to control themselves their team should be penalized. This would force the fans to stay under control and keep them from making rude comments.
I think it's great that you actually confronted this man. More people should do. I know exactly what your girls were feeling. I've had that happen to me in numerous sports when the pressure is on and that shouting person gets in your head and you mess up. It seems like all of the work you put into the sport has gone to waste because someone got into your head.
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